Things That Definitely Belong In Your Dream House

Need:

Outdoor bathtub

Living With Cancer: The Scar Project

A beautiful NYT article on beauty and cancer.

How You Know When Someone Cares About You

Tactics For The Revolution of Everyday Life

“Disrupt expectation with generosity. Consider your gaze as you sit in a bar or walk down the street. Rather than scanning with a will to judge, scan with a will to accept.”

On Flirting

“This is the very condition of the social: to interact with others is to be taken astray of yourself. I am not suggesting that when you’re alone, you’re truly oneself and that the social sends you off path — as if there were a path. No, what I’m trying to say is that when alone, there is little to nudge us — which is why books, films, music, meditation, solo trips are important. But in the social, one is confronted with forces that inflect and shape and massage one’s way of going. The social is an event of distributing identity.”

On Generosity

“Letting something have its way demands great trust. And so this is another aspect of generosity: assuming the best from something. That is, rather than looking for how something fails, why it sucks, why you hate it, you look for what’s great, what’s interesting, what has possibility. Why spend your time, your energy, talking about something you don’t enjoy, you don’t respect? What a perverse thing to do! Generous reading seeks to proliferate a thing, make it as interesting and wondrous as possible! It doesn’t reduce; it multiplies.”